feat(mail): keep mail a player deletes, marked deleted, for staff

Deleting mail in game now sets mail.deleted_at (migrations mysql 95,
sqlite 78) instead of removing the row. Every read for the game skips
deleted mail: the mailbox, a single mail (claim, read, delete), the
unread count, the economy scan of waiting attachments and the UGC
lookup of mailed models. Deleting a character still removes its mail.

Check: delete a mail in game; it leaves the mailbox, the unread count
drops, and the row is still in the mail table with deleted_at set.
Parity test: ParitySeeded.Mail (DeleteMail).

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

migrations/dlu/mysql/95_mail_deleted_at.sql

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+/* mail.deleted_at: when the player deleted the mail in game (unix time; 0 = not deleted). Deleted mail stays for staff
+   to read on the dashboard; the game never shows it again. */
+SET @dlu_column = (SELECT IF(COUNT(*) = 0, 'ALTER TABLE mail ADD COLUMN deleted_at BIGINT NOT NULL DEFAULT 0', 'DO 0') FROM information_schema.columns
+	WHERE table_schema = DATABASE() AND table_name = 'mail' AND column_name = 'deleted_at');
+PREPARE dlu_column_stmt FROM @dlu_column;
+EXECUTE dlu_column_stmt;
+DEALLOCATE PREPARE dlu_column_stmt;

migrations/dlu/sqlite/78_mail_deleted_at.sql

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+/* mail.deleted_at: when the player deleted the mail in game. See the MySQL migration. */
+ALTER TABLE mail ADD COLUMN deleted_at BIGINT NOT NULL DEFAULT 0;